Who am I to let the unkindness of someone so insignificant to my life determine my self worth?
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt as though you did your best and it still was not enough? That day in and day out you worked hard for a goal that just was not in sight? I feel as though every day we are faced with obstacles – ones that constantly challenge us to be the best version of ourselves. I think about good days and the bad days and the ones in between. I recall the times where kindness played a major role in the overall atmosphere of the situation and ask myself, who am I to be unkind?
As the sun sets this evening we begin Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. As this year comes to an end my mind races trying to gather the good and bad memories of this past year with hope that this upcoming year will be better. From unfortunate working situations and upset to some of the best days with even better people. I see myself in a light that is unlike the Courtney of the past. This time around I see the endless possibilities of the beautiful world in which we live.
Going into a new year, I can’t help but to be thankful for the opportunity of starting fresh, not just today, but every day. From the second we close our eyes at night to the moment we open them the following morning, we have given our mind and heart the chance to let go, move forward and be the person that we want to be (how cool is that?).
Every single day we have the opportunity to ask ourselves if we are going to hold a grudge that only allows us to carry the burden of unfortunate situations of the past or are we going to breathe and understand the lesson behind the situation then let it go and move forward? The choice is ours, every single day.
The reality of growing up is understanding and accepting these 4 principles:
- Not every one is going to be kind to you — but that doesn’t mean you can’t be kind to them.
- Not everyone cares about you the way that you care about yourself — and that is okay because you probably don’t care about them as much as you care about yourself and that is completely fine!
- Not everyone has the same heart as you — don’t discredit them, everyone has their own obstacles that have made them who they are, remain kind…maybe they need it more than you know.
- Not everyone is going to choose you — So why not choose yourself?
The roller coaster of adulthood has caused me many sleepless nights, tears and stress but that has not stopped me for aiming for my true purpose (whatever that may be) with a full, open and kind heart. I see my failures as a learning experience and a chance to come back better than before. I see my failures as the wrong place at the right (or wrong) time and it is only a matter of time before it becomes the perfect place at the perfect time.
Today I woke up. Today I chose to let go of the people who have done me wrong. Today I choose to be the Courtney Alexa DeYoung that I know I have the ability to be. But most importantly, I remembered to always choose kindness – today, tomorrow and every day to come.
L’shanah Tova – may this year be filled with kindness 🙂